Gabrielle Van Rij is a nationally renowned bullying prevention expert who shared her insight.
Over 50% of the adult population says that they have experienced bullying at work, at home or in the community. Van Rij says that if a bully is never really aware of the consequences of their actions, they will often carry the behavior on into adulthood. She says that the bully and the victim often share the same qualities and they are mirror images of each other and have many self-esteem problems. The victim that does not deal with the issues as a child becomes a bully in the workforce.
“It’s normal,” says Van Rij. When you have people under you in the workforce, this is your time to be powerful. Her advice is to have a bystander to become an active witness, otherwise it’s the victims word against the bully’s.
Document everything that happens between the victim and the bully and don’t take everything personally. Van Rij says bullying happens when you are being humiliated by someone, at often times, publically.
Gabrielle Van Rij outlines more details of bullying in her book “With All My Might.”
For more information go to gabriellavanrij.com