ST. LOUIS, MO (STLMoms)- It's the most wonderful time of the year and for parents considering divorce the best advice might be to keep it that way for your children. Family Law Attorney, Jonathan Marks explains why waiting is a good idea. He also gives some guidelines to help you get through that difficult conversation.
Marks says to choose a good time to tell the kids. Both parents should be there together and choose a time when nobody has commitments for at least several hours.
· TALK WITH YOUR SPOUSE BEFORE YOU TELL THE KIDS ABOUT THE DIVORCE:
make decisions together about details you will share with your children. together, you should rehearse what you are going to say, as well as what you won`t say when they ask why the divorce is happening.
· REMAIN CALM AND AVOID BLAMING:
the way in which you present this news to your kids will, in large part, affect their level of anxiety and whether they anticipate a positive outcome for themselves
· PROVIDE DETAILS ABOUT THE CHANGES YOUR KIDS CAN EXPECT:
your kids will want to know where they`re going to live, with whom, and what about their lives is going to change.
· REASSURE THE CHILDREN OF YOUR UNCONDITIONAL LOVE:
your children will need lots of reassurance that the divorce is not their fault. make sure both parents collectively and individually convey their unconditional love through words and actions.
· BE SENSITIVE TO HOW THE KIDS WILL REACT:
what you`re telling them may be completely unexpected, and will change their lives.
· WELCOME THEIR QUESTIONS:
children will have many questions, so be as honest and clear as possible with your responses.
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